I know my take on this is will be wildly different than what is considered main stream opinion right now. But I’m sort of like that….
Miley Cyrus, oh my, what has this girl gone and done?! She shaved her hair. She danced provocatively on stage. Now America has a word we cringe at…TWERKING! She created a music video that was well, very sexual in nature. How could America’s sweet little thing, whose parents looked, oh so wholesome do this to us? I mean come on; she was a child star on Disney…our daughters look up to her and would you look at her now!
Throughout the ages long hair on women was a sign of honor. As the roles of women change through the years so have women’s view of their hair. It is very common now after the end of a romantic relationship for a woman to cut her hair, why? Because it is a sign of rebellion, of taking back their mind, soul and body. As I was going through my divorce I had to cut my hair really short because the eating disorder had left me with patches of hair gone….and I almost took it all off…why? Because my ex whom I despised at the time had loved my long curly red hair. I understand why Miley has shaved her head…she like women before have decided to go against the grain of acceptable society. Demi Moore, Sinead O’Connor and I’m sure plenty more talented and strong women decided to not walk the line of normal.
The teen choice awards have long been known for their shock value. Every award show out there tries so hard to be the topic of conversation the next morning. This show was no exception…I find it interesting that two entertainers were censored by society as Miley Cyrus and Alan Thicke were…some of the comments were Alan is “married, his poor wife”…Do you suppose that she might be use to this sort of behavior, as he is an entertainer and all entertainers, be they singers or actors will portray sexuality NOT directed at their spouse because sex sells. I had no idea the move that Miley did was called Twerking…but I will say it has been going on in clubs and schools across the country for years upon years. We just have a name for it other than “Dirty-Dancing” or “grinding”.
I watched the music video and listened to the song by Miley called “Wrecking Ball” with my daughter. What I saw was an artistic portrayal of heart break in relationships. She was stripped down naked and if you have ever suffered heart break in a relationship, you know that you feel, as vulnerable as one who is naked and on display which this video clearly displayed. The song was a beautiful, her voice was powerful and her video stunning.
The little innocent girl has grown up; she has a good family, what a blessing for her. Miley was a child star that many of our daughters looked up to but as my daughter pointed out those little girls have grown up as well. All of this doesn’t change the fact that Miley is a sexual being (like all of us) who clearly has no issue with showing her sensual side.
My daughter asked me if I would want her to follow in Miley’s footsteps. That was a hard question to answer…you see I don’t wish my daughter to struggle so hard against society, to feel as if she needs to assert her individuality, to swim upstream all the time. But I do want her to have the courage to express herself, to do things her way, everyone else be damned. I wish this for her now so that she doesn’t reach middle age and realize she could have done more. I do want her to follow her own path and dreams even if her sisters don’t have the courage to support her because she isn’t following their idea of normal.
I am suggesting that perhaps Miley Cyrus doesn’t fit in the mold of what we think our daughters ought to look like and what they should do. I’m suggesting that America’s sweetheart is causing us to realize that our daughters are growing up and becoming capable of owning their own lives and minda and yes even their own sexuality.
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